Sensitivity to Other People’s Feelings

Sensitivity to Other 

People’s Feelings

Jesus replied, “The most important commandment is this: ‘….you must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, all your mind, and all your strength.’* 31 The second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’* No other commandment is greater than these.”

Matt. 12:29-31

When the writer was very young – under the age of 10 years, he saw his home as the only home in the world i.e. best in everything, particularly as far as love is concerned. The next door’s neighbours, as far as he was concerned could not have been as nice as the people in his own home were.  The day he was asked for the first time in his primary school days to pair with a girl was a sad day for him simply because a very dark, robust and promising girl from an entirely different background had the misfortune of being paired with him.  He hated her to his bone marrows and the charcoal black complexion she wore only worsened the matter.  He had to sit dis-comfortably far away from the fine by God but ‘ugly’ by him promising and innocent girl.  He had to demarcate the internal locker so her books would not touch his!  When he looks back today he is full of apologies for the unlucky girl in absentia while asking God for forgiveness for he knew not what he was doing then.  He thanks God for that compulsory opportunity to ‘forcefully’ mix with other people, otherwise he probably would have continued with his negative belief that every other home is a strange place till his adulthood!  He was only sensitive to his immediate environment. Perhaps he wouldn’t have been happily married as he is today.  

Again, it was only after he had come of age, after he had interacted with other families as well as people from all walks of life especially fellow students in various schools, colleagues in the office, members of his spiritual family in the churches he had attended, members of professional and social clubs, etc or those he met in various parts of Nigeria and abroad, that he understood that there are many other families as loving as his. 

Even after surmounting the home front, be graduated to the ‘tribe’ setting where he felt it was only his own Tribe that was the best and no more.  Indeed as a result of this but for ‘let me give it a trial’ syndrome, he would have lost an opportunity to live with one of the persons who contributed immensely to his success in life.  Why?  Simply because his friend, as far as he was concerned, was a ‘foreigner’ so he did not believe that anything good could come from any other tribe other than his own!  (for full details of this: please click here (Chapter 17 – I meet Mr. ...Tombri”).  Thank God, he took ‘the risk’ and he discovered that there are other tribes that are as good as his.

Our lives would have been better if only we can think beyond ourselves by realising that other persons can be as good, kind and loving as we are and therefore socialise with them to tap the benefits that God had deposited in them while they too tap into the ones deposited in us for them.  Are you like this writer in his former nature or in his ‘born-again’ nature?  Consider the latter because that’s the only one that can benefit you.  Good morning

ATTITUDES TO LIFE

Our success in life is a function of our attitude towards it.  For instance there are only two paths to follow to attain one's destiny or thwart it.  One can follow the positive path which believes that all good things are attainable.  The other is the negative path which is sceptical about attaining any height in life.

Those who believe in the positive path are those who from when they were young believe that there is more to life than dining and wining.  They are the people who believe they must leave this world better than they have met it.  They are the people who would identify a particular beneficial cause in human endeavours and pursue it until their names ring bell to the entire world.  Barak Obama would have remained like many other blacks who were sceptical about the possibility of a black man becoming American President, therefore, would have never attained that office.  But, yes, sensitive to his skin, the positive force in him kept him going even when the possibility of attaining the height of a Senator talkless of a President logically appeared uncertain.  The same drive to make a difference fired him on even when there was no money to pursue his ambition.  Two major causes Obama identified as needing his contributions to the American populace are in the areas of health and finding alternative source to fuel supply in America and, maybe his third focus is that America was not smart enough by investing so much in fuel-uneconomical vehicles!

He drove these ideas through his thin and is now driving it in his thick days.  Only last week, he succeeded in pushing through his ambition to revolutionalize the health sector by signing into law the enabling law.  His positive attitude towards this goal did not come when he became a Senator or a President of America.  It was a dream he held when he was very poor and a no-body in the society but which he held on tenaciously to that time and chance might one day bring the fortune of pushing it through his way.  Today, skin colour nothwithstanding,  that time has come and he is pushing it and will eventually be remembered for it as a legacy he is giving to America. !

Those on the negative side are those who dream no dreams not have visions they are pursuing. They are quick at believing that nothing works. They believe that unless you know somebody somewhere, you cannot make progress forgetting that that somebody they looked up to drove their visions before the can be sought after. 

This is still very prevalent in Africa where nobody dies a natural death - someone (nay, visionless, jobless, people like their idle selves) somewhere or the invisibles like the  witches or wizards or all forms  of spiritual principalities,  must have killed him or her. They are quick at giving spiritual rather than scientific analysis to every issue and are very quick at sacrificing rational thinking to spiritual explanations.   

What is important on both sides of this coin is that our attitude dictates who we eventually are in life.  Those who develop negative attitudes will reap the fruit of negativity while those who develop positive attitude will equally reap the benefit of such.

What's your attitude to life?  You are sure to reap the reward attached to it! 

You Are The Head

"If you listen to these commands of the Lord your God that I am giving you today, and if you carefully obey them, the Lord will make you the head and not the tail, and you will always be on top and never at the bottom." 

There are many promises in the Bible.  But Deut. 28:13 quoted above stands out.  When a student is scoring less than 'A' in all his subjects, he is living below the mark.  When a person's career is not prospering, that person is living below the mark.  When a couple is barren, that couple is living below the mark.  When parents and children do not see eye-to-eye, that family is living below the mark. When a worker at 60 years retires unhappily because his loans outweighs his final entitlements, that person has lived below the mark.  When a Pastor divorces his wife, he has lived below the mark. When the head of the family is handicapped financially, morally and intellectually to perform his expected roles in the family he's living below the mark.

When a businessman has to bribe before he gets a contract and bribe his way to get his invoice paid, that person is living below God's standard.  In all situations, the truth is that we are responsible for all the misfortunes that befall us!

How then does one hit the mark?   Wisdom!  We must apply wisdom in everything we do by realistically questioning our actions.   Let's take a student who is not doing well, he has to question how well he applies himself to his studies.  A man who retires at 60 whose entitlements were swallowed by loans has committed the serious error of mortgaging his future in his hey days.  A marriage that fails may have been founded upon a "incompatibility" or carelessness even where the couples are compatible.  Research has shown that many of the loans that led people to problems are taken for wasteful purposes such as socials or purchase of wasteful assets!

If those involved had questioned the essence of such loans, perhaps they would have succeeded in living below their means.

It therefore behoves on us that we should not take God's promises for granted.  If we foolishly handle them, they will not manifest the good intentions of God for us.

The Wet and The Dry Seasons of Life

Just as there are majorly the Wet and the Dry Seasons in every Calendar Year, so it is in our personal lives.  During the wet season of our lives, favour is abound, whatever we lay our hands upon flourishes, we are happy and at the same time joyful.  It would appear that nothing nothing in this world can shake us.   Everybody becomes our friend!

But when the dry season comes, favour is withdrawn.  Whatever one lays his or her hands upon resists.  Otherwise brilliant students surprisingly begin to fail their examinations; those who are working are threatened with uncertainties or even direct attack by their fellow senior colleagues who ought to encourage them.  Those in marital relationship lose their joy and face turbulence instead.  Children become disobedient to their parents; parents question God's existence.  A good example of a dry season in the investment world was the Financial Institutions Crash and the Stock Market Failures in the last 2 years or so, all of which turned experts to fools! Or when job, after many years of celebrating excellence suddenly became a failure and a confused man!

I don't know what season you are facing in your own life.  But one thing is this, even if the whole world rejects us, God is always with us both in the Wet and Dry Seasons. That is why whether you are in a dry or wet season, you must attach yourself to God.  He amply demonstrated this in the life of Job and is still doing it today. 

Struggling with God?

"Everything has already been decided. It was known long ago what each person would be. So there’s no use arguing with God about your destiny.."  Eccl. 6:10

Life is such that unless we truly succumb to God's direction, it can be easily wasted.  Let's take an example, the moment a bird is caught and caged by the catcher, the destiny of that bird is in the hands of who has caught it.  For instance, he can feed or starve it to death, its movember is limited within the cage, the kind of food it eats is limited to the menu supplied by the catcher.  The bird loses total freedom and is confined within the cage.

So it is with us.  I have tried to think around the question:  WHO is man?  But the answer I find is that man is nothing except God makes him something. That's the whole truth.  For us to become something, then we must cling to that God.  Arguing or struggling with him is an effort in futility.



Therefore, no matter what you face today, the only way out for you is to cling to God for solution.  He owns you. He moulded you.  Therefore he holds the key to your destiny.

Apply Wisdom to Your spiritual Calling

Apply Wisdom to Your spiritual Calling

God can use anybody for His purpose.  Indeed the whole essence of our creation is for His purpose and pleasure.  Many people are called to serve God full time by becoming  full time Ministers or Pastors.  Many are called to serve on part time by concentrating upon their secular works and participating actively in spiritual matters on part-time basis while they earn their living.  Again, many people are called to serve God through their secular activities such  as their career, talents, etc.

In all these situations, God does not like lazy people.  No one can hide under the cloak of being called by God to serve Him on full-time basis and therefore jettison their secular callings.  Eli was a full time Minister who failed in the home front.   You can therefore not be so spiritual as to abandon your secular responsibilities to your family, community and indeed, the world at large.  I marvel when I see especially  young people saying that God has called them to serve Him on full time basis and who have in the process abandoned their schools or careers or professions and stayed glued in the church.  The end up becoming gossipers who will meddle in the affairs of others.  Why because in their private lives, they are idle. They will see false visions.  They will go from house to house soliciting to pray for people.  They will depend upon unwary  people to supply their needs.  Paul admonishes Christians to beware of them.  Hear him in 2 Thes. 3:11-12: 

 Yet we hear that some of you are living idle lives, refusing to work and meddling in other people’s business. We command such people and urge them in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ to settle down and work to earn their own living.

So if God calls you to a full time ministry, apply wisdom, practice your profession on part-time basis.  If He calls you to a part-time Ministry, then practise your profession full time.  Either way, you must earn a living to feed yourself and your family and give to your community what is due them through you!   

If you notice people who want to hide under the cloak of full-time ministry in your church to depend on you for sustenance in the name of frequenting your house to pray for you or always seeing visions for you, don't give them anything.  Instead tell them to go and work. 

You can be hypnotised too!

"On my way home, the spirit of God started to reveal pieces of wisdom to me.  First, He referred me to the book of Mark:8.36 which says, “For what shall it profit a man if he shall gain the whole world and lose his own soul?” (MKJV)  Then I recalled another Bible passage about the fact that it is only “God that blesses and adds no sorrow to it...”.

If you are without knowledge, you can be easily fooled without remedy.  But if you are knowledgeable, attempts will be made to fool you but your knowledge will set you free. Below is the writer's  personal experience in this regard :

"...About two years later, on my way from school one afternoon, I sighted Alhaji on the other side of  Bolade Bus Stop and hailed him. He was very glad to see me again and immediately invited me to his new house.  I obliged him and we arrived at a one-storied building in a street not far away from the point of our recent meeting.  We then climbed upstairs and he opened the door leading into the sitting room where he welcomed me.

       But it was not a normal sitting room because it was filled with some very voluminous Arabic Books, a mat, a huge bowl filled with beach sand, a row of assorted perfumes and all sorts of other things that conjured bizarre thoughts within me!

       I was indeed shocked but I kept quiet even in the realization that I was in for some trouble. Alhaji seemed to discern my uneasiness and tried to allay my growing fears.  He assured me that as a father, he would only want to help me.  He boasted of big names he had already helped to became rich in life.  He dropped such names as the Abiolas, the Dantatas and a host of other very prominent people in the society.

       Then he requested for some money to buy some perfumes with which he wanted to do something for me.  At this point, I was no longer myself.  I plaintively informed him that I was in fact looking for my school fees and that I had little or nothing on me.  However, I searched my pockets and found a little amount which was just enough to buy the perfumes. Painfully, I gave it to Alhaji. He opened one of his stock of perfumes and poured its contents into my palms.  He advised me to rub the liquid on my face, hands and body.  I did as he commanded willy nilly.

       Next, he took out one of the big Arabic books, tore off a piece of a plain sheet of paper, folded it and enclosed it between the pages of the book. He then asked me to kneel down and pray for whatever I wanted. I prayed my desires, albeit, in Jesus' name.  To him, the mode and language of the prayer did not matter.

       After my prayers, he opened the book and brought out the same plain sheet of paper he had inserted into the Arabic book in my presence.  Lo and behold, the paper replicated everything I had uttered in my silent prayers  in black and white!  It was in very beautiful scripting and in my actual words!  Besides, on the same page metamorphorsed a beautiful talismanic ring. A detail of the magical facsimile informed me that all I requested had been granted. The actual requests were spelt out.  I had no problem with that verisimilitude because I had prayed in Jesus' name.

But these disclosures were shackled with conditions and claims I must accept in my life thenceforth following God's favours I had apparently been granted. It was at this point that the knowledge of the word of God concerning temptations quickly came to my mind to rescue me!

       The first condition was that I should thereafter regard Alhaji as my god and that his words would be binding on me. I would worship his spirit too. 

       My immediate spiritual reaction was a silent recitation of the Bible passage in Exodus 20:3 which states: “You shall have no other gods before me”.  So I stood on the ground that the demand of this so-called spirit negated the will of God in Exodus 20.5, which says, “You shall not bow yourself down to them nor serve them. For I, the LORD your God, am a jealous God..”

       The next hurdle was the claim of the devil-writer that he was a spirit in the River Mississipi (USA).  My canceling reaction: the claim ran counter to Exo. 20:4 which says: “You shall not make to yourselves any graven image, or any likeness of anything that is in the heavens above, or that is in the earth, or that is in the water under the earth.”

Condition 3.  I was required to provide a ram for a sacrifice that would be carried out in the night at the Bar Beach, Lagos.

       My reaction:  Sacrifices belonged to the Old Testament times. Jesus Christ has completed every form of sacrifice we needed to perform with his blood. In the Book of Jn. 19:30, the Lord Jesus says, “it is finished!” (MKJV)

Condition 4.  The miracle ring that sprung out of the process would be released to me to wear protectively always.  This requirement was contrary to church practice where only marital rings were worn.  Besides, I was too visible as a member of the Choir to be seen suddenly to be wearing a peculiar ring. How would I explain it to my Pastor and fellow choristers?

       As I ruminated, the Alhaji was exhorting me to take advantage of the 'golden' opportunity, otherwise, I would risk sudden death.

Poverty Sets Me Free!

      

       For once, my enemy seemed to be in agreement with me!  This is because my escape route lay in the fact that I had no immediate financial capacity to carry out other concomitant requirements to fit into Alhaji's coven of converts, and I told him so.  But he urged me to go to wherever I could raise the money and assured me that, in no time, I would be able to repay it.

       As my self-assurance returned, I took the window of opportunity that this opened and agreed to go look for the required money, promising to return later to accomplish the final initiation!

       On my way home, the spirit of God started to reveal pieces of wisdom to me.  First, He referred me to the book of Mark:8.36 which says, “For what shall it profit a man if he shall gain the whole world and lose his own soul?” (MKJV)  Then I recalled another Bible passage about the fact that it is only “God that blesses and adds no sorrow to it”.

       Then the Spirit reminded me of my past covenants with God (truly I had some, many of which were surprisingly also re-echoed in the magic letter!) and of how God had consistently helped me.  Why should I then suddenly turn against Him?  Besides, I should review the life of the Alhaji himself. If he was as capable as he then claimed, why was he unable to have babies from his first wife?

       With such resurgent thoughts, I was sure that I did not need Alhaji's help for what God wanted me to become in life.

       But the threat of sudden death, should I fail to go back to Alhaji, still nagged me!   Although I was then not conversant with Psa. 118:17 which says “I shall not die, but live and declare the works of the Lord” (MKJV), I resorted to Esther's courageous and defiant spirit: “if I perish, I perish” (Est. 4:16) (MKJV).  And I never went back to Alhaji,  the agent of the Devil!

       In the spirit and aftermath of the foregoing encounter, I wish to commend Jesus Christ to  my readers who are yet to accept Him as their personal Lord and saviour to do so because only He can see us through the temptations of life and lead us to fulfill our God-ordained destiny. To have a foreknowledge of the word is to be battle-ready at all times. 

Culled from "Better Tomorrow"  (Chapter 19) by Yemi Omogboyega

My Country, A Friend or A Foe?

There's nothing I laid my hands upon that Nigeria has not done everything within her capacity to frustrate, including the efforts at aimed regularly posting  this Daily Energiser to encourage fellow citizens of the world to be positive-minded. 

I am a Nigerian and am contented to be because God does not make mistakes in whatever He does.  

Nigeria is good, just as no single segment of planet world is itself bad because whatever God does is perfect.  From my younger years till now, going to 53 years of age, I still continue to wonder if Nigeria is not the biblical land of Canaan which flows with milk and honey. 

Every GOOD parent caters for their children at least so that the latter's lives can be better than the former.  Good parents realise that life should unnegotiably be better for their off springs.  So they endeavour to ensure that they take adequate care of them. by providing good food, shelter, education, medical care etc.  More importantly good parents create an atmosphere of love that make their off springs feel like achieving their goals in life. In return their children love them too. 

Like biological parents, every country is a parent to her citizens.  The level of care that the country takes of her children will determine the level of love her citizens will reciprocally give back to it.  

Many Nigerians are checking out of the country today not because they do not love their motherland but because their motherland has thrown them into the lion's den for the lions to feast upon.  And these other countries are do so without looking back.   

When I reflected about my own life, I surely know that God has continuously blessed me but Nigeria has treated me so callously that I sometimes feel that those who travelled abroad (even if to suffer) cannot be blamed.  There's nothing I laid my hands upon that Nigeria has not done everything within her capacity to frustrate, including the efforts at aimed regularly posting  this Daily Energiser to encourage fellow citizens of the world to be positive-minded.   For a few days now, even though I have been subscribing to IPNX, Multilinks, Zain, MTN, Glo, STARCOMMS, O'Net, DOPC, and name all the notable internet service providers in Nigeria, all of them (except IPNX whose coverage is still scanty and which at least if only through communication, has tried to be different from the rest) have  failed to deliver.  Whereas, when I had opportunity to travel outside of Nigeria to the United States of America, my laptop picked up internet signals FREE throughout my stay there.  While in the UK, I paid but for service rendered!  Each time I look at the various useless but very expensive modems that adore all corners of my home and office, I regret being a Nigerian.  Can I blame these companies? No  doubt there may be human lapses here and here, but the environment in which these 'humans' work will make it at least partially unfair for me to tag them all as 'sinners'.  If I had to power my tiny internet model with genset, how much more hardship do these service providers endure as they power their entire equipment throughout the country on the same generator!

Is it not a contradiction to say Nigeria is good and at the same time that it is bad?  That's the irony of it all and it depends upon the angle one looks at it.

Looking at the land mass and all her rich endowments, Nigeria is an excellent country. But looking at her leadership and their style, it is a curse, not only to be a Nigerian, but to live and attempt to excel in Nigeria.   Then how do I separate Nigeria from her visionless leaders since Nigeria is the mother that produces the bad children who are spoiling her reputation?  What is the benefit of a country with abundant endowments which only impact they  make upon her citizenry is POVERTY?  

Let's digress a bit. What is the benefit of Nigeria to me if I earn N100 and N90 out of it is wasted on generating sets, high school fees, fighting mosquitoes, fixing vehicles made rickety simply because I lost two tyres at a go in a single error of running into a deep 'drum-hole' somewhere at Ilesha-Akure 'expressway'?  And this happened beside the burial grounds of armed robbery victims a few years past!

Why do I need burglary in my house, in my street, and charms combined with the Bible+the Quran before I can move around and feel safe or close my eyes at night?   Why should my Doctors recommend expensive drugs such as Lexotan, mogadon, ibuprofane, panadol,  a daily dose of anti-bp tablets.  Why do I need the combination of local herbs with orthodox medicines to combat a ever-resistant malaria?  I think an average Nigeria consumes more of that 'toxin' or 'poison' called anti-biotics than they do multi-vitamins!   

Why would the cost of procuring documentation for landed properties be equal to if not more than the cost of erecting a building under which to lay one's head? Why would an average person have to purchase land from two land-lords e.g. the customary owner and the government.  Why would a government revoke a certificate of occupancy it genuinely issued by itself only to restore it at a fee?

The Bible says build your business first before building your home. What a wonderful revelation!  But every business ever contemplated upon by an average Nigerian is killed either by PHCN or Government direct regulations  that will make it impossible for it to run.  How does one build a home with the yield of a failed business?

One thing I have been praying and hoping for is not only to be alive when Nigeria becomes a good country to live in, but also to enjoy it.  I am looking forward to when Nigeria will turn from being a foe which she is today to a friend in need and in deed.  If only before I expire, I can witness and be part of their beneficiaries, then I would die happy!

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Want to Know the details of what Nigeria has contributed to my life?  Please go straight to Chapter 36 of my autobiography titled "Better Tomorrow"

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Why do the Opposite?

 For we must all stand before Christ to be judged. We will each receive whatever we deserve for the good or evil we have done in this earthly body.  2 Cor. 5:10

"Then she heard someone call her name. It was  a strange voice. She turned and saw the person calling her in a shop, looked at her familiarly... Kehinde became defensive, she asked him how he know her name....   As if he read her thoughts, he said "Don;t mind my drinking alcohol; I am a pastor .  I like you. ....   My mind was at peace, I did not think of anything negative.   He returned later and had changed what he was wearing before ... The pastor unmasked his true self.  He looked at Kehinde straight in the eyes and asked her to remove all her clothes...  "I then removed my skirt, followed by my camisole, my brassiere, then my tight shorts and my pant. "  He said I should open my legs but I refused.  The pastor said he would kill me if I don't shut up. and that he would just dump my corpse somewhere ... He was already o top of me.  The he started sucking my breasts and he penetrated..."  Sunday Punch March 2010 p. 9. 

Ladies and gentlemen,  whether the  above quoted biblical statement be real or not whereas it is true, what does it cost us to do good? Why do human being prefer to do evil instead of good?  We all know corruption of any form is bad and we all condemn it yet we all continue to say one thing and do another. We know stealing, sexual immorality, drunkenness, smoking are bad for our health and they waste our resources.  Yet we actively engage in them!  Why?  Why must we be persuaded to do good?    Why do we condemn corruption and when we commit one we justify our actions?  

Let's be frank to ourselves.  Let's do the will of God and life will be the better for us.

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The Complexities of Marriage

Mrs. Kikelomo's husband travelled for a few days.  On his return, he met the absence of his wife.  A few minutes later the wife arrived  a ceremony, gorgeously dressed, looking radiant.  Kike's husband asked where she was coming from.  She said she was coming from a ceremony to which she was invited by a close colleague of hers.  The husband became furious.  "How on earth would you attend a ceremony without my knowledge?"  He demanded an instant apologies and an assurance that history of that nature would not repeat itself. Kike didn't feel it was a serious matter as to demand such.  So she refused.  The husband became agitated and unhappy at Kike since then.  It degenerated to a serous problem for the family and it was beginning of a divorce proceeding against Kike.

The above 80% real-life story of Kike is what is going on is  some homes today.  Spouses don't understand what it takes to be a couple.  That consent is required from one another before any outing or activity could take place.  That a woman, in particular needs the consent of her husband to engage in party-going and that it spells doom for her if she disobey this rule.    A man equally owes his wife prior explanation as to his movements otherwise the wife may be tempted to become suspicious of him.  

Are all these out of sheer jealousy?  No.  It is natural that since the two have become one, one half cannot be independent of another in all activities involving the relationship.  It is therefore instructive that couples should be 100% open to themselves. This s how complex the relationship called "marriage" can be!

 

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Stay Away and Break Your Home!

Loneliness is one of the greatest enemies of marriage. God created man alone but saw that it was not good for him to remain alone so he created Eve to keep him company. However, in the process of their being together, Eve and Adam made room for loneliness again and during the period Adam was briefly away from Eve, Satan visited her and from Genesis to Revelation in the Bible, the rest is history today and the repercussions are grave!

What happened to Eve clearly suggests that nobody is free from temptations when faced with appropriate bait. To Eve, it was a 'beautiful, sweet fruit'. To men it may be 'sexual lust', 'alcohol', 'smoking' etc. For instance, In a matter of sex, women are known to be stronger than men and that's the whole truth but they too, in the case of extreme loneliness, do fall prey! Have you not heard of highly placed lonely women wooing their house-helps?

A lonely man will easily be attracted to the opposite sex and can easily fall. A man who appears unattracted to the opposite sex might not be as a result of his 'holiness' after-all. It might be that he had engaged so much in it in his early life that he has discovered its 'futility' or that he has alternative method of satisfying his sexual urge (e.g. through masturbation , homosexualism, lesbianism and other immoral means)! An elderly Pastor in Pentecostal church threw a large congregation into laughter during a Youth seminar in the church one day when he said "immediately we had the number of children we wanted, we told God we didn't want any more children and that was it.’ When asked whether he applied birth control measures or stopped having sexual intercourse with his wife altogether, he denied using both methods! And everybody laughed because it was obvious that a man of God lied in order to appear holy!

Even in singles, male or female, sexual urge becomes more pronounced from about 12 years of age to about 19th. The real meaning of loneliness becomes known to both from about the age of 20's when a man or a woman feels, beyond having sex, they need true 'companion'. This is the period people take marriage seriously and are restless until they get hooked. This is period a lonely girl truly becomes promiscuous and  lonely guys become a 'he-goat' that cannot be restrained from sexual relationship. Those who know God among them however, rich or poor, will take to the Biblical injunction "if you can no long hold yourself, go get married' which is the wisest counsel to take to.

It is therefore real that those whose nature of jobs involve travelling and staying away from their spouses are more prone to having sexual relationship outside wedlock. Unfortunately when it happens, we do not go straight to the real cause of the issue – loneliness and see to how close they can be to prevent recurrence. We attribute it to 'indiscipline', 'unloving', 'wickedness' etc whereas that's not the truth. A couple that is always apart, saint, or sinner, is almost likely to run into troubled waters wherever they stay. It is therefore far better for couples to do all they can to stay together as much as possible - if only to keep their homes intact

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Brevity of Life

You have made my life no longer than the width of my hand.  My entire lifetime is just a moment to you; at best, each of us is but a breath! Psalm 39: 5

One day, an Uncle of the writer suddenly realised that he has become an elderly man and in a quick flash said “life is too short!”.  Ever since then I’ve been meditating over that statement and ever now and then its meaning becomes clearer and clearer to me.  I related it to all the young children we started life together but who have since departed at one point or the other.  I related it to my parents who seemed to me to have  lived long, each of them spending not less than 85 years.  I related it to my self, the last born of my mother who have suddenly turned 53!  I was at our old farm and recalled the huge population of both young and elderly people in the community with whom we all related in the farms in the entire 60’s and I see them no more.  Then I related it to the Biblical stories of great and low men and women who have lived before us and are now remembered only by history!

Then I asked myself “where are they?  Will they ever come back? Can we still have a repeat of the good old days?”  But alas! All that is history.  Yet, no matter how long we live, we shall all ‘disappear’ one day.  Life is truly brief and we need to just try to enjoy in the fear of the Lord during our own brief portion in it.

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Watch that your quiet child!

Teach  your children in the way they should go so that when they grow up, they will not depart from it.

There’s one consistent trait observable in almost all children who are cult members or leaders.  They always appear quiet.  They hardly hold themselves out.  By their very nature, they are not eloquent.  Most of them are very brilliant.  But like a serpent that does not announce its appearance by making noise, they calculatedly carry out their nefarious activities underground. 

The only antidote that can guarantee the integrity of children is to teach them the ways of the Lord.  If not, no matter how much we try, we will be deceived by them.  Any parent that ignores this has ignored the Key that can unlock the sealed hearts of their children.  Such children are likely to unpleasantly surprise them one day. 

Therefore all parents whose children are not being properly mentored towards God should watch those their ‘quiet children’ closely!

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Anger is a Killer

 Stop being angry! Turn from your rage! Do not lose your temper, it only leads to harm. Psalm 37: 8

Many people have died, many are on their way to the graveyard already and many will still die!  Many people that are admitted in the hospitals today are not suffering from any peculiar illnesses but as a result of the accumulated distress they have subjected themselves over the years and no medication can cure their diseases! This holds true for people who cannot control their tempers.  They are always boiling and a persistent boiling water will vapourise! 

What is the matter with you that turns you into petrol that is ready to ignite at the closest contact with the flame or more dangerous too, natural gas that  is always moving round looking for the tiniest spark of light to ignite it! 

If you must live long and fulfilled, if you must live to labour and enjoy the fruit of your labours, you need to control your temper.  Stop looking for what will make you spark up – people’s faults!  Instead, cool down your temper so you can see the many things that would have made you happy and glorify God.  

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Apologies

Apologies for not seeing the postings of Daily Energiser after the 25th of February.  I lost access to the internet.  


Postings will resume any moment form now.  Thanks for keeping abreast. 


YEMI

Servant Leadership

As you clim up the ladder of life, your stewardship to humanity must increase.  You must give something to everybody!  You be like the”The tree that had something to offer every category of animals that came in contact with it”

“...Let us learn from King Nebuchadnezzar’s dream.  It talks of a beautiful, Big, and fruitful tree which provided food for some, shade or cover for some and accommodation for others.  This tree has something to offer every category of animals that came in contact with it.  It was a very useful tree.  Like this tree, you can be beautiful, fruitful and have something to offer every class of human race.  You are capable of impacting them in several ways for God’s glory.  If you are born again but you are not as useful to mankind as this tree, you are yet to exploit your God - given potentials.  This tree affected the world: you too can affect the world for good!”Pastor Adeboye’s “Open Heavens” of 15^th January 2010 titled “Something to Everyone”

We all pray to be blessed but not many actual are willing to be a blessing to others!  This is a selfish approach to to life.  The essence of being blessed is to bless others and it must of necessity start from our homes e.g. blessing our children, our siblings, parents, our extended family members, our community, our State our nation and the world at large. If I were to decree, I would say it must of necessity be in that order!  For instance, what’s the pride of a man who is a blessing to outside but that nobody in his household can point to one good he has done for him or her? What’s the pride of someone like Soyinka, Chinua Achebe etc if they make no contribution to Nigeria?  What is the pride of a father who takes no care of his own wife and children but is a world-class ‘philanthropist?”

I therefore urge readers to please flash back and count how relevant they are to all these strata of their communities.  Ask yourself, “how positively have I been impacting all those strata of communities entrusted to my care?” If the answer is negative, then there’s room to make amends and it should be started right away!  The higher you go up the ladder, the more your stewardship to people should be.  You must give something to everyone!

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Wisdom and Folly - their offerings

When wisdom enters your heart,

And knowledge is pleasant to your soul,

Discretion will preserve you;

Understanding will keep you,

To deliver you from the way of evil

From the man who speaks perverse things

From those who leave the paths of uprightness

To walk in the ways of darkness

To walk in the ways of darkness

Who rejoice in doing evil

And delight in the in the perversity of the wicked;

Whose ways are crooked

And who are devious in their paths;

To deliver you from the immoral woman,

From the seductress who flatters with her words

Who forsakes the companion of her youth

And forgets the covenant of her God

For her house leads down to death

And her paths to the dead;

None who go to her return

Nor do they regain the paths of life

Prov. 2:10-19

It takes wisdom to be able to discern when one is drifting away into the oblivion.  However, one without the spirit of discernment is easily carried away by what they call the pleasures of the world.  For instance research shows that many young children that found themselves in evil company and ended up being caught in crimes are those who disregard God’s words, disobey their parents and go their own ways. 

Some other  easy traps are  SEX and ALCOHOL.  Sex is; itself, like alcohol.  Hardly can any mortal man see the nakedness of a woman and be able to say no to that temptation. Yet it is a potent weapon in the hands of women to bring the unwary highly or lowly placed or even strong men of God down. What is more, it is now made easy.  Women themselves do the wooing simply with their bare breasts.  And the men cannot resist, except perhaps, those preserved by God! For the men who are fools, it is easy, their mouths are as sweet as the apple their eyes are seeing.  They easily and majestically walk into the bosom of such women!

Alcohol is another deadly game that every unwary person will surely want to give a try.   It is so enticing, beautiful in appearance, sweet in taste but more deadly than the venum of a poisonous serpent. Why don’t we all consider the above proverbs and become wise so that we may live?.  

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God's Spirit

Teach me to do your will

For You are my God.

Your Spirit is good.

Psalm 143:10

Many of us miss it in life because we fail to ask God for direction.  He is our God, our Creator, our everything, unless He teaches us to do right, we are bound to do wrong always.  Therefore it is wise and very instructive for us to seek to know His will for our lives and seek His help to enable us do just that because His Spirit is good towards us.

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Delicate Species!

You shall not afflict any widow or fatherless child,

if you afflict them in any way, and they cry at all and My wrath will come hot, and I will kill you with the sword; your wives shall be widows, and your children fatherless;

Exodus: 22:22

God has special love towards the fatherless, the widow, the strangers and the ‘truly’ disabled  and poor persons.  By extension, this is applicable to our domestic helps! 

Therefore we ought to be careful about how we deal with them.  Failure to treat them well may lead one to import generational curses upon generations after him or her and divert the journey of a heaven-bound person to the pit of hell!  

Ought we all take good care of these sets of people?

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