Loneliness is one of the greatest enemies of marriage. God created man alone but saw that it was not good for him to remain alone so he created Eve to keep him company. However, in the process of their being together, Eve and Adam made room for loneliness again and during the period Adam was briefly away from Eve, Satan visited her and from Genesis to Revelation in the Bible, the rest is history today and the repercussions are grave!
What happened to Eve clearly suggests that nobody is free from temptations when faced with appropriate bait. To Eve, it was a 'beautiful, sweet fruit'. To men it may be 'sexual lust', 'alcohol', 'smoking' etc. For instance, In a matter of sex, women are known to be stronger than men and that's the whole truth but they too, in the case of extreme loneliness, do fall prey! Have you not heard of highly placed lonely women wooing their house-helps?
A lonely man will easily be attracted to the opposite sex and can easily fall. A man who appears unattracted to the opposite sex might not be as a result of his 'holiness' after-all. It might be that he had engaged so much in it in his early life that he has discovered its 'futility' or that he has alternative method of satisfying his sexual urge (e.g. through masturbation , homosexualism, lesbianism and other immoral means)! An elderly Pastor in Pentecostal church threw a large congregation into laughter during a Youth seminar in the church one day when he said "immediately we had the number of children we wanted, we told God we didn't want any more children and that was it.’ When asked whether he applied birth control measures or stopped having sexual intercourse with his wife altogether, he denied using both methods! And everybody laughed because it was obvious that a man of God lied in order to appear holy!
Even in singles, male or female, sexual urge becomes more pronounced from about 12 years of age to about 19th. The real meaning of loneliness becomes known to both from about the age of 20's when a man or a woman feels, beyond having sex, they need true 'companion'. This is the period people take marriage seriously and are restless until they get hooked. This is period a lonely girl truly becomes promiscuous and lonely guys become a 'he-goat' that cannot be restrained from sexual relationship. Those who know God among them however, rich or poor, will take to the Biblical injunction "if you can no long hold yourself, go get married' which is the wisest counsel to take to.
It is therefore real that those whose nature of jobs involve travelling and staying away from their spouses are more prone to having sexual relationship outside wedlock. Unfortunately when it happens, we do not go straight to the real cause of the issue – loneliness and see to how close they can be to prevent recurrence. We attribute it to 'indiscipline', 'unloving', 'wickedness' etc whereas that's not the truth. A couple that is always apart, saint, or sinner, is almost likely to run into troubled waters wherever they stay. It is therefore far better for couples to do all they can to stay together as much as possible - if only to keep their homes intact
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