Wednesday, December 30, 2009
PULL HIM DOWN PARTNER
Memorise: "Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands" (Prov 14:1)
Read: Ecclesiastes 9:7-10
In Malachi 2:14, God said that He is a witness in the dealings between husbands and their wives. In other words, marriage is so important to God that He personally observes what each partner does, either to build or to destroy the home. "Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands" (Prov 14:1). God's original purpose for a woman in the life of her husband is to be a suitable helper. There are two broad categories of partners: They are the Pull Him Down (PHD) partners and the Build Him Up (BHU) partners. Every married couple falls into one of these. A PHD wife is one who takes away something good in her husband, reduces his worth or contributes in any way to dethrone him from where God has placed him. One area many wives have pulled down their husbands is by denying them sexual satisfaction. Some temptations are as a result of sexual starvation while others are as a result of lust.
When a man looks outside because of denial of sexual intimacy, that is sexual starvation. But if after being satisfied by the spouse, the fellow still goes out to sleep with another person, that is pure lust. It is a foolish pastor's wife that will starve her husband sexually. In the make up of the human body, the woman was designed to exercise greater restraint in sexual pull than the man. However, it is pure wickedness for a woman to use such strength to the disadvantage of the man. Quite a number of husbands are sexually starved. From their lustful look at some women, you can tell they are starved. To some sisters, love-making once in one or two weeks is enough. It is not enough! Remember, one major reason for love- making is for oneness. Even after child birth, you have to continue your trip to oneness until your last breath. For the first 35 years of marriage, it is suggested that couples meet at least 3 or 4 times per week. It could be more but should not be less. As the marriage grows older, adjust according to your needs and stamina. Whatever grace you will require to satisfy your spouse, ask the Lord for it and He will give you and bless your union. Sexually starved partners become depressed, resentful, revengeful, uncooperative, bad leaders. They are prone to sins such as masturbation, fornication and adultery, rape, divorce, loose morals, and lust. If you are exposing your partner to such risks, you are a PHD partner.
Action Point: The Christian wife or minister's wife who is nonchalant towards her husband's sexual needs, believing he cannot be unfaithful, is foolishly daring. To avoid disappointment, meet his needs from today.
Action Point: The Christian wife or minister's wife who is nonchalant towards her husband's sexual needs, believing he cannot be unfaithful, is foolishly daring. To avoid disappointment, meet his needs from today.
