Positive Flashes: Should Marriage Be Timed?

Should Marriage

Be Timed?

Some people have opined

Marriage need not be timed

I disagree because it’s misleading

Everything in life has its time

Failure to recognise this and plan

Will lead to old age discomfiture

Our youthful retirement should be fun

If we marry too early we will lose the joy of our youth

If we marry too late,

We might lose the joy of our old age

Retirement should be fun

Without pressing responsibilities,

But late marriage  will create problems for us at old age!

To emphasize this probability

Let us use the model below with the following standard assumptions

·       We are in Nigeria

·       The current Retirement age in  is 60 years

·       There are five fathers

·      They got married variously  at 25,30,33,35 and 37 respectively.

·       All five fathers began rearing children a year later

·       Each father produces not more than four children

·       They train their children only up to the 1^st Degree

·       The children complete their education on schedule

·       Youth service isn’t part of their father’s care-period

·       Whether the five fathers  
·       are employees or employers,

·       their target is to retire at 60 years.

·       Each of them married only one wife

·       All are responsible father who want to enjoy their retirements.

All things being equal, the bold, blue figure against each name below represents the age at which each father will produce a graduate!

Marriage Model

Age of Father At Marriage	Ages the fathers gave birth to the four children	Age Child of father 1 when  child 1  leaves  Primary, |Secondary, Tertiary institutions,	Age of father when Child 2 leaves Primary,Secondary & Tertiary Institututions	Age of father when Child 3 Leaves primary, secondary and Tertiary institutution.	Age of father when Child 4  leaves primary, secondary and Tertiary institututions
F.1 25	26, 28, 30,32	36,42,50 Read an 8-yr course at the University	38,44,48 Read a 4-yr course at the University	40,46,51 Read a 5-year course at the University	42,48,54 Read 6-year course at the Unviersity
F.2 30	31,33,35 & 37	41,47,51 Read a 4-year course	43,49,57 Read an 8-year course	45,51,56 Read a 5-year course	47,53,61 Read an 8-yr course
F.3 33	32,35,37 & 39	42,48,53 read a 5-yr course	45,51,59 read an 8-yr course	47,53,59 read a 6yr course	49,55,63 read an 8-yr course
F.4 35	36,38,40, 42	46,52, 58 6-yr course	48,54,59 5 yr course	50,56,64 8yr course	52,58,64 8yr course
F.5 37	38,40,42 & 44	48,54,59 5-yr course	50,56,62 6-yr course	52,60,68 8-yr course	54,60,65 5-yr course

Culled from "Positive Flashes" By Yemi Omogboyega.  Need a copy? Please call or SMS 08034465225



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Positive Flashes: Creating Wealth

Creating Wealth

Asking people to save

For the rainy day

Is not a strange advice

To anybody

But the majority of us

Lack any ideas

Of where to keep such money

To yield an expected bountiful return

Some people have tried the banks

Which have resulted in failures.

Some tried other means

With the same fate

But in the advanced countries

They have since understood the secret

Of where to grow their savings

They have decided to release the secrets

Robert G. Allen, in his book

“Multiple streams of Income”

, has this to say:“...change your attitude about money”

“Day in, day out,

Save, Invest, Save,

Invest. It might be boring,

It might be dull,

It might be hard to do.

No matter what it takes,

Just do it”

In the various inspirational books

In the market today

The truth is that we have been tardy

At unraveling the hidden treasures

Deposited in such golden books

Anyone who is not promoting such knowledge

Would continue to live in the past

Are you among such people?

Repent of your sins against yourself

Begin today to read the books

They are too numerous to list herein

Start with the Holy Bible

King David’s (psalms)

King Solomon’s (Ecclesiastes, Proverbs),

All these great men of God

Have something to tell you

About wealth creation

Deuteronomy 29:29 says :

“Hidden things belong unto the Lord

but those revealed belong unto us”

This is a treasure

No book has ever revealed to man

Proceed to “The Richest Man in Babylon”

Written  by Classons

Read George Allen’s

“Multiple Streams of Income”

Nearer home,

Read Yemi Omogboyega’s

“Family Budgeting – A Must For Your Home”

Then open your eyes wide

Because millions

Of other equally inspiring books

Are vended in the traffic jam,

They are in the bookshops

They are all over the place

Buy them and read them up

Your life will surely

Be transformed

For the better.

All these sources

Are releasing the secrets

Which those who made it before us

Had shielded

From us all in the past!

Culled from Yemi Omogboyega's: "Positive Flashes"

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The Meaning of “Help”

The Meaning of “Help”

To some people,

The word “help” means

“Take on, ALL my burdens off me”

That’s wrong notion

Stretched too far

Rather, the local expression

Only connotes an assistance

Or aid

To somebody

To achieve a set goal.

‘Help’ is particular and pragmatic,

It doesn’t mean total dependence

On the helper

For the helper

Do have his own problems too

‘Help’ is a booster

To specific, genuine effort

To better some life

To become independent.

The gesture should be seen

As a soothing balm

To the strains

In the path to progress.

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Created Rugged!

Created Rugged!

Nigerians are a unique people

Created rugged and resilient

Able to adapt to any condition

Whatever the vagaries in cost of living

They absorb the pains gamely

Taking everything in their strides

Their life is lived lackadaisically

With fans, air conditioners, switched on

While the windows are carelessly opened

Whether there’s electric power or not.

Nigerians will always survive!

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The Policemen’s Dilemma

The Policemen’s

Dilemma

Of all the security agencies in Nigeria

The Police is the most traumatised

Rejected by the people they police

Rejected by their own Government

Rejected even by their own families

Their barracks are a weary environment

The most populated by,

Mostly unplanned children!

Insufficiency has been their lot

In an occupation –

the most risky of all jobs

Ye their enemies know them

While they know not all their enemies!

So their lives are subject

To abrupt termination at any time

Their remuneration

Is incommensurate and in arrears

To minimise  the imbalance

They resort to unbecoming practices

At unlikely places along the highways

Often unwillingly demeaning their consciences.

Frustration breeds bad conscience

When film makers seek to depict the poor professional in the society

The police or the Teacher

Is a ready illustration

Although the teachers

Are fighting for their rewards

Here upon the surface of the earth!)

Both professions

Deserve better deals

Though police, move so

To get the desired redressing

Not only from government

But the society too

Who treat them contemptuously

Urgently, police should improve themselves

With academic

And spiritual knowledge

Enough of poor recruits!

People-police harmony overdue

Police must stop inebriating

Must stop breeding like pigs

And invest in family and future

Knowing their hazardous career

They must look beyond career prospects

And gird themselves with God’s insurance

Such would restore their relevance

To self and their Creator

And stop their stigmatization

As poorly, ignorant and failures.

Culled from Yemi Omogboyega's "Positive Flashes" 


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Women's Positive Thinking Quotes

Women's Positive Thinking Quotes

"When one door of happiness closes, another opens;  but often we look so long at the closed  door that we do not see the one which has been opened for  us..... Helen Keller   "I find it interesting that the meanest life, the poorest  existence, is attributed to  God's will"..... Maya Angelou   "Life appears to me to be too short to be  spent in nursing animosity or registering wrong".....Charlotte Bronte   "One is happy as a result of one's own efforts,  once one knows the necessary ingredients  of happiness: simple tastes, a certain degree of courage,  self denial to a point, love of work, and,  above all, a clear conscience"..... George Sand   "The ability of writers to imagine what is not the self,  to familiarize the strange and mystify the familiar,  is the test of their power"..... Toni Morrison   "A spirit of harmony can only survive if each of us remembers,  when bitterness and self-interest seem to prevail, that we share a  common destiny"..... Barbara Jordan Positive thinking quote from the 2008 book, Finding Your Soul in the  Spirituality Maze: "Therefore, be a liberal or conservative if that be your  choice. However, both are frequently unhappy life stances that  often emphasize the negative and thus attract more negative   experiences and people. Remember the general  rule: you get more of what you concentrate on

Culled from http://www.helpself.com/directory/attitude-2.htm


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Between Humility and Arrogance

".. .Unfortunately sometimes, other people feel superior to others and treat specific classes of others as being little more than human.  Especially, I have noticed that this happens to some individuals as soon as they can append Ph.D or M.D after their names.  In their mind, it is as if the degree or title elevates them above others.  Yet, no matter how famous they become or how much they achieve, we do well to remember that they are still the same peole they were before they had the degree after their name." Ben Carson in "Think Big" p. 194

There's just a very thin line between humility and arrogance.  We are all born humble but develop the traits of arrogance by what happen to us in life, some of which are: the kinds of trainings we receive from our parents, the leadership examples imbibed from our parents, the kinds of group we keep, the positions we hold in our offices, the grades we make in our academic exploits, how successful we are in our marriage and/or  business endeavours, how knowledgeable we are and so on.  All these are matters that influence who we are and how we behave - not that we were born with them.

For instance have you seen a day old baby arguing or puffing up before his or her parents?  No. It cannot be. Indeed most children don’t really show signs of arrogance until their teenage years when they suddenly discover that they are as tall if not taller than their parents or when they, through peer pressure, the begin to exhibit strange behaviours that are alien to their home background.

Many challenges bordering upon arrogance  are easier to combat, except ‘riches'.   The Bible says: “A rich man answers harshly” while poor man is humbled by his poverty.  What gave the rich guy that 'impatient'  attitude?  It his realisation that he has financial capacity more than others to meet certain demands, if not he would be as humble as the rest.  Let’s all admit, unless Christ indwells in us, it is impossible to be rich and yet be humble.  Jesus Christ, through the Holy Spirit will constantly remind us that even though we are rich, we are not an inch better than other people who are not and will constantly tell us ‘come low, come low’, or ‘humble yourself’. 

Therefore, when God begins to bless you, always remember, it is a grace.  Also remember that members of your family or your friends who are yet to hit their goldmines have their own 'appointed' time to do so.  

So in your behaviour, you should always ‘come low’ to the level of everybody (educated or illiterate, rich or poor, high or low).  Respect elders and let those junior to you be motivated so that both categories of people can see the glory of God in your life.  Let your poor friends realise that you're still a human being like them who have affectionate feelings. 

The thin line between humility and arrogance is that  voice (Jesus Christ through the Holy Spirit) that reminds us to ‘come low’. Obey that voice today and always! And it shall be well with you continuously.  Remember anyone staying away from Jesus finds it difficult to be humble.  

Good morning.

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You Can Inspire (or Kill) People!

We are all differently gifted. On the positive side, some people have the gift of giving, some of speaking, some of teaching, some of visitation, some of making people happy, some of preaching, some of good counsel, some of turning stones to bread!  There are some people, who, no matter how down one is, their presence or appearance, even without necessarily uttering a word, lifts the spirit!  Such people need to be present in many places to inspire people!

Likewise, on the negative, some are sorrow carriers,  gossipers while some have evil viruses that infect anyone they come in contact with.  Some are just impossible people and they enjoy being just that.

Positive or negative, it is a matter of which side of the coin we want to belong. We can always change at will. Someone on the positive side, might suddenly change to the negative while those on the negative might decide to go the other way.

There was this lady colleague of the writer. She was very aggressive, uncooperative. She can look at anybody, not matter his or her status in the face. If the environment had been peaceful, the moment she came in, it would turn uneasy.

One day, as we were discussing she told us her story. She said she started out life being humble, quiet and very enduring. Indeed she was a very shy person who could not look at anybody in the face. But that one day she just decided to become bold, aggressive, and so on. Unfortunately the time she did this was a crucial stage of her life when she needed to be well-behaved so she could receive favour from the network of people she related with both for marriage and career development etc. Unfortunately, people were scared by her attitude such that promotion, marriage etc eluded her!

That's to say that we all have the tendency to change. But it's a matter of choice. Which side of the divide are you today? If negative, choose to change to the positive. If positive, choose to remain consistent. YOU CAN DO IT! JUST DO IT! IT IS BENEFICIAL FOR YOU TO DO IT.

Remember to read your Bible and pray today. Have a nice day.

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