Fair Hearing in Parenting (2)

Continued from yesterday

Fair Hearing in Parenting (2)

The Boy

Title: Why I don’t have to bring

a bad result home

         

“I never imagine my self to be a failure because

I am not born to be a failure… The major problem is that I don’t know how to manage my time very well”

 "I know that I have sinned against you as my parents, because I know that God has not created me to be a failure!  And I know your vision for me is not to be a failure. I never imagine myself to be a failure because I am not born to be a failure.

                    I know that I don’t have good reasons for me to bring a bad result home. My major problem is that I don’t know how to manage my time very well, why is because subjects like English, Biology, Economics and mathematics are subject need a lot of time because without these subjects I don’t think there will a breakthrough for someone like me into the university, That is why I want you to teach me how to manage my time well because out of the 24 hours I spend 9 hours in school and the remaining 15 hours I spend at home and out of this 15 hours I will have to do my assignments and after I have finish that the remaining hours will not be enough for me to do a proper study of what I have done, that is why I want you to teach me or analyse to me how to use my time judiciously.

          In my English I want to improve on my essay writing or letter writing, because these are the things I need to take note of, because when writing external exams the marker who will my essay letter will not know who I am and what he or she wants to mark is how well I compose and frame my words are (if possible) without any mistake, and how good my thinking ability is.  Why I am particular about this is because mummy has been telling me to write essays for her to know how my thinking ability is and how I can think articulately fast within a short period of  time been given.

          In my major subject like English, Economics, Biology and Mathematics I need someone that I can go to when i have some difficulties. My brother, Olu, and I had  agreed that this coming holiday will be for him to help me in my difficult areas but unfortunately for me, he left for Lagos and that arrangement which I had banked upon is not working out. However, still think with your help, I can do it myself. I know I can make good use of this holiday by attending extra lessons.

          Now it is time and a must for me not to waste this opportunity because this is my final lap and I must not let it go like that without succeeding. This is the solution and I pray God help me through."

Upon reading the above articles, our children taught us some major lessons:  that we should always give them fair hearing in matters involving their upbringing; that they will open up to us on what they feel they needed to help them overcome their challenges. That negotiation and dialogue are vital tools to resolving conflicts.  That they are willing to co-operate with us at all times if the environment be right. Finally that they do not want to cause us pains and that what we are correcting in them are things that are to them painful and which they want to get over from quickly and live a mutually satisfying lives with us their parents. 

I am happy as a father that I was led to adopt this approach which, if I had not looked at the word of God closely, I would not have done myself and we as parents would have had difficulties gaining the necessary co-operation we needed from our beautiful/handsome children to raise them in the way of the Lord that would give us all peace in the long run.

Are you a parent?  How have you been managing your children?  Do you involve them or you are always ‘enforcing the law’ by bullying and beating them? If that is so, change your style today to dialogue and negotiation.  You will be surprised how wonderful and co-operative your children can be in jointly attaining good success!  No wonder, when  God the Father wanted to create man, He consulted with “God the Son and God the Holy Spirit”  Again, no wonder why the Trinity are co-operating together till date  to ensure the salvation of the same man they consulted together to  create – Jesus willingly offered Himself to die for him while Holy Spirit is now his teacher who is teaching him on how to run the day-to-day affairs of his life!”  Good morning.